It’s been a long time since I posted here. That is simply because there has been no news to share in regards to adoption. Nothing other than how sad we feel over having to put a stop to the journey. It was a hard, but necessary, decision to make.
Things are turning around for us financially. We have managed to dig ourselves out of the hole that the layoff caused. Our savings aren’t up to where we would like them to be. Still we can’t help but start thinking again about adoption. It is just too deep in our hearts to ignore. Our hearts and minds are about to meet up and get on the same track. That means our plans will soon be on that track as well. The track to adoption.
After the first of the year we are going to start the classes for adoption through US foster care. We haven’t decided for sure that is the route we will take to find Howie. We figure no matter where we adopt from the classes will be helpful. They focus on attachment, special needs, transitioning a child into your family and that sort of thing. No matter where we find our son, that information will be helpful. Especially since we are looking to adopt an older or special needs child. Or an older special needs child.
Before deciding to stop the adoption plans for awhile we were seriously looking into adopting from India. I can’t help still thinking about it. I felt like I was really being drawn there. I thought it was just a particular boy that we found out about that drew us there. I was happy to find out that he will soon become a part of a family here in the US. I am happy to see any child find their forever family, but I am especially glad to know this little guy found his. As I was saying, I thought it was simply this boy we were drawn to, but even after learning he is already being adopted I feel the pull toward India. I even tried to convince myself after the tragic events in Mumbai that India was NOT where we should go. I didn’t manage to convince myself though. I am not at all sure why I feel so drawn to India, but I do.
We are also looking into the Philippines. I’ll admit that it was an incredibly adorable little boy with autism that I saw on a photolisting that sparked interest for me in the Philippines. I don’t feel a pull as much as I do with India, but the adoption program there does interest me. We certainly qualify for it which is a key factor, but there are other things I like as well. The kids are beautiful too. It certainly wouldn’t be as far to travel as other places we have considered.
Of course there is a strong chance we will indeed adopt from US foster care. Financially it makes the most sense. Although I think that since we are hoping to adopt an older/special needs child that we would stand a fairly decent chance of getting a grant. I can’t count on that though. Another good thing about adopting from US foster care is that I know there is a great need for families willing to adopt and love these children.
Right now I think the important thing is simply the fact that we are ready to start trying to move forward.
